Sue Maitland - Life Transitions Coach

BEST REST OF YOUR LIFE COACHING

Make the rest of your life the BEST of your life

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The Biggest Mistake

DiceWhat’s the BIGGEST mistake most people make when facing a life transition? 

It begins with the letter P – can you guess what it is….?

We all do it from time to time but when we do it when we’re facing a significant life transition it can dramatically impact our options and our satisfaction with the outcome of the transition….

If you guessed PROCRASTINATE you’re right!

Let’s face it almost all of us, at one time or another have put off doing something we really could do today. If it’s a small thing and putting it off doesn’t really impact anyone else and we get to it in the near future, or determine that it really doesn’t need to be done at all, there’s usually little or no harm done. If it becomes a habitual pattern and you begin to feel guilty about not doing things and overwhelmed with all you have to do and are unable to take action, this can become a problem.

Now imagine you’re facing a significant life transition such as retirement or creating a new life after divorce or the passing of a loved one. What if you procrastinate about these things? As a Life Transitions Coach I see this frequently and it frustrates and concerns me, since pro-actively planning for the future can significantly enhance the quality of your life and my tag line is “make the rest of your life the BEST of your life” because I believe you can choose to do this at any point in your life. Procrastinating keeps you stuck and may result in you being forced to make decisions without having really thought them through and maybe making the wrong choices and having to live with them for a long time and possibly for the rest of your life.

Why do we procrastinate?

There are many reasons why we do this – here are just a few of the reasons I’ve heard:

  • I don’t have time to think about it
  • None of the options are attractive so I just don’t want to think about it
  • I’ve never done anything like this before and I don’t know where to start
  • Everyone keeps giving me different advice and now I don’t know what to think
  • I’m too tired at the end of the day to do anything but watch TV
  • Maybe someone else will take care of it for me so I don’t have to think about it
  • I’m afraid that I’ll make the wrong decision

What is it that’s stopping you?

The first thing you must do is understand what’s stopping you. Once you understand what the barriers are to you making a plan for your future, you can begin to explore how you can remove them. Here’s some ideas about how you can overcome some of the barriers listed above:

Reason #1

I just don’t have time to think about it

What you can do:

Take 15 minutes and make a list of all the things you spend time on now. Take a look at the list and ask – is there anything I could eliminate or spend less time doing? Once you’ve identified what time you can free up, commit to a regular time in your schedule when you will use that time to focus on your plan for your transition.

Reason #2

None of the options are attractive so I just don’t want to think about it

What you can do:

Recognize that sometimes we get stuck thinking that we only have one or two possible options. Consider asking someone you trust who doesn’t have a pre-defined idea of what you should do, to help you come up with a list of options, no matter how far-fetched they may seem. This is sometimes referred to as a brainstorming session. You can do it by yourself by listing all the options you’re considering plus any you have already thought of and eliminated. Just looking at this list can often help you to come up with a brand new option, maybe a combination of one or more of the ideas on your list, that could be perfect for you. My clients find this happens all the time when we start working together. It’s all about being open to new possibilities.

Now whatever your reason is for not creating a vision and making a plan for your transition, I’m quite sure that if you think about it, you can come up with a way to get past what’s stopping you and I invite you to do that right now.

Getting clarity about where you’re going and a plan to get there will significantly reduce your stress and enhance your overall quality of life.

What if I just do nothing?

If you chose to do nothing and YES you are making a CHOICE (unconscious or not) to do this, you may well think you’re choosing to maintain the status quo and that nothing will really change. This is a dangerous assumption, since rarely in life do things stay exactly the same and even if we don’t change, the people and things around us probably will. Choosing to do nothing will simply defer the inevitable and you may ultimately find that your future is decided for you by someone else. Alternatively, you may find that by procrastinating, you’ve missed valuable opportunities that could have significantly enhanced your quality of life, had you been open to them.

You CAN take control of your life

I encourage you to start TODAY to think about a plan for your next life transition. Acknowledge that things will probably need to change, get clarity on what’s most important to you right now and in the foreseeable future, create a vision of what you want that future to look like, make a plan to get there and begin to take steps to create the future you want for yourself.

Know you need to do this but feel you’ll need some support to make it happen? I invite you to stop PROCRASTINATING and call me today for a complimentary Discovery Session. You’ll be surprised at how clear the path forward becomes and how motivated you will be to follow through and make your vision a reality when you invite me to be your life transitions coach. Please, don’t put this off, call me today at 778-265-6880 or email me at suemaitland@shaw.ca and let’s get started on planning your ideal life transition.

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