Weâ€™ve all heard the story about how in mid-life, an apparently happily married older man suddenly leaves his wife of 25+ years for a younger woman and trades in the family sedan for a new sports car. Itâ€™s a tongue in cheek definition of what a mid-life crisis can look like, but is there really such a thing as a mid-life crisis and is it only men who experience it?
I believe there is and I see many women experiencing this too. As a Life Transitions Coach Iâ€™ve built my practice around helping mid-lifers plan and execute successful personal and professional transitions and whether we label it a â€śmid-life crisisâ€ť or my preferred term â€śmid-life transitionâ€ť many women and men in their 40â€™s and 50â€™s are driven to make one or more significant changes in their personal and professional lives.
The reality is that we wake up one day and realize that weâ€™re at a point in our lives where weâ€™re probably at least at least halfway done and we may not feel as fulfilled as weâ€™d like. We decide that something needs to change and unfortunately, sometimes without a clear plan or serious consideration for the full implications, we do something to trigger a change either in our personal or professional lives or both. Iâ€™ll talk about the consequences of doing this without a clear plan of what you want for the future in my next blog.
Here are some signs that you might be facing a mid-life transition (crisis):
- Youâ€™re dissatisfied with your job and start to resent going to work
- You look at your partner and feel your relationship has become routine and stale
- You notice that friends whose company you used to enjoy now seem shallow or boring
- Youâ€™ve recently lost your job and canâ€™t face going back into that same type of work again
- You dream of owning your own business and being your own boss
- Youâ€™re increasingly focused on signs of aging when you look in the mirror
- Your life seems dull and uninspired â€“ you begin to yearn for something new and exciting
- You start to feel that your whole life has revolved around your children & their needs
- Youâ€™ve begun to resent family commitments and donâ€™t enjoy them the way you used to
- You think more and more about retirement and wonder how soon you can make it happen
- You really want to make a difference in this world but youâ€™re not sure what that means
- Youâ€™ve begun to be increasing curious about spiritual matters and different religions
- You feel burdened by financial obligations and wonder if youâ€™ll ever be able to retire
- You have a sudden desire to get very physically fit
- Youâ€™re putting increased focus on your clothing and overall physical appearance
- You yearn to have the courage to try new things that youâ€™ve never done before
- You feel like your life is dictated by other peopleâ€™s expectations of you and your wants and needs even arenâ€™t being considered and you feel resentful
- You increasingly find yourself asking the question â€śIs this all that there is?â€ť
- You get an overwhelming feeling that you want to leave everything behind and start a fresh new life without any baggage
Did any of these resonate for you?
If they did, you may be facing a mid-life transition and the very best thing you can do when you realize this is PAUSE and take time to evaluate exactly what your next move should be.Â
Engaging a qualified and experienced life coach at this point in your life may be one of the best investments you ever make since they can help you get clarity on what you really want and this will reduce your stress and allow you to make conscious and empowered choices about your future.
Here’s what my mid-life client Jacques had to say about working with me:
â€śIn respect to the difference working with Sue made in my life, the investment was well worth it. If youâ€™re ready to really improve your life, the investment is secondary.â€ť
In my next blog Iâ€™ll share with you some of the costly and painful and consequences of NOT taking the time to plan your mid-life transition and how you can avoid these mistakes.
As an ICF certified Life and Career Transitions Coach Iâ€™ve helped many mid-lifers execute successful transitions in the personal and professional lives and Iâ€™ve made my own successful transition into a career that fulfills and sustains me. If you would like to explore inviting me to help you with your mid-life transition, please call today for your complimentary consultation at 778-265-6880 or go to my website at www.suemaitland.com and send me a message telling me more about what youâ€™re going through and weâ€™ll arrange a time to connect.
You donâ€™t have to face this alone â€“ take charge of your mid-life crisis and experience the sense of empowerment that comes from having a caring and experienced life transitions coach on your side to help you get clarity on what you really want and then support you as you plan and execute a successful and fulfilling transition.