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Mid-Life Crisis – Myth or Reality?

Mid-Life Crisis (2)We’ve all heard the story about how in mid-life, an apparently happily married older man suddenly leaves his wife of 25+ years for a younger woman and trades in the family sedan for a new sports car. It’s a tongue in cheek definition of what a mid-life crisis can look like, but is there really such a thing as a mid-life crisis and is it only men who experience it?

I believe there is and I see many women experiencing this too. As a Life Transitions Coach I’ve built my practice around helping mid-lifers plan and execute successful personal and professional transitions and whether we label it a “mid-life crisis” or my preferred term “mid-life transition” many women and men in their 40’s and 50’s are driven to make one or more significant changes in their personal and professional lives.

The reality is that we wake up one day and realize that we’re at a point in our lives where we’re probably at least at least halfway done and we may not feel as fulfilled as we’d like. We decide that something needs to change and unfortunately, sometimes without a clear plan or serious consideration for the full implications, we do something to trigger a change either in our personal or professional lives or both. I’ll talk about the consequences of doing this without a clear plan of what you want for the future in my next blog.

Here are some signs that you might be facing a mid-life transition (crisis):

  • You’re dissatisfied with your job and start to resent going to work
  • You look at your partner and feel your relationship has become routine and stale
  • You notice that friends whose company you used to enjoy now seem shallow or boring
  • You’ve recently lost your job and can’t face going back into that same type of work again
  • You dream of owning your own business and being your own boss
  • You’re increasingly focused on signs of aging when you look in the mirror
  • Your life seems dull and uninspired – you begin to yearn for something new and exciting
  • You start to feel that your whole life has revolved around your children & their needs
  • You’ve begun to resent family commitments and don’t enjoy them the way you used to
  • You think more and more about retirement and wonder how soon you can make it happen
  • You really want to make a difference in this world but you’re not sure what that means
  • You’ve begun to be increasing curious about spiritual matters and different religions
  • You feel burdened by financial obligations and wonder if you’ll ever be able to retire
  • You have a sudden desire to get very physically fit
  • You’re putting increased focus on your clothing and overall physical appearance
  • You yearn to have the courage to try new things that you’ve never done before
  • You feel like your life is dictated by other people’s expectations of you and your wants and needs even aren’t being considered and you feel resentful
  • You increasingly find yourself asking the question “Is this all that there is?”
  • You get an overwhelming feeling that you want to leave everything behind and start a fresh new life without any baggage

Did any of these resonate for you?

If they did, you may be facing a mid-life transition and the very best thing you can do when you realize this is PAUSE and take time to evaluate exactly what your next move should be. 

Engaging a qualified and experienced life coach at this point in your life may be one of the best investments you ever make since they can help you get clarity on what you really want and this will reduce your stress and allow you to make conscious and empowered choices about your future.

Here’s what my mid-life client Jacques had to say about working with me:

“In respect to the difference working with Sue made in my life, the investment was well worth it. If you’re ready to really improve your life, the investment is secondary.”

In my next blog I’ll share with you some of the costly and painful and consequences of NOT taking the time to plan your mid-life transition and how you can avoid these mistakes.

As an ICF certified Life and Career Transitions Coach I’ve helped many mid-lifers execute successful transitions in the personal and professional lives and I’ve made my own successful transition into a career that fulfills and sustains me. If you would like to explore inviting me to help you with your mid-life transition, please call today for your complimentary consultation at 778-265-6880 or go to my website at www.suemaitland.com and send me a message telling me more about what you’re going through and we’ll arrange a time to connect.

You don’t have to face this alone – take charge of your mid-life crisis and experience the sense of empowerment that comes from having a caring and experienced life transitions coach on your side to help you get clarity on what you really want and then support you as you plan and execute a successful and fulfilling transition.

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A Weekend of Self-Care for the Busy Professional Woman

 

You’re a successful business woman with many competing demands on your time and finding time to focus on your wants and needs often takes a back seat to your many other responsibilities. Give yourself permission to hit the pause button and indulge yourself in two days totally devoted to your wants and needs at the beautiful Tigh-Na-Mara Resort and Spa in Parksville. This small group workshop involves some group activities and also provides for you to capture your own personal thoughts and ideas without sharing with the other members of the group. We’ll explore why women often feel they have to “do it all” and end up putting self-care on the back burner and understand the impact that can have on our health and our interactions with others. You’ll take time connect with what makes you special and explore some activities you can integrate into your life to uplift you. We’ll explore how you can free up time in your schedule to integrate these activities into your day and even practice saying “No” nicely – an important component of making self-care a priority. You’ll leave feeling refreshed and with clearly defined actions you can take to bring more balance into your life.

This very special weekend of indulgence is designed to give you maximum flexibility while offering the opportunity to treat yourself to a wonderful spa experience, or dip in the mineral pool followed by the delicious endless tapas meal with other group members in our robes in our own private dining room. I promise you, it’s a decadent and unique experience that you won’t want to miss.

Day 1 of our workshop will run from 10:00am on Saturday morning until 1pm. The afternoon provides for free time to assimilate what you discovered and enjoy a light lunch in your cabin or at the restaurant and then walk on the beach or indulge in a spa treatment and a dip in the mineral pool before we enjoy our endless tapas experience in our robes at 6:00pm. You must book a spa treatment (which includes access to the mineral pool) or pay $40 to access the mineral pool if you wish to join us for the endless tapas in the private dining room at the Grotto Spa where robes are mandatory.

Day 2 will run from 10:30am on Sunday morning until 1pm with the option of enjoying lunch in the dining room together before we leave.

I want to provide you with maximum flexibility, so each participant is responsible for booking and paying for their own spa treatment or dip in the mineral pool and endless tapas. These indulgences are not included in the workshop pricing. Saturdays can get busy, even in the fall, so please call the spa and book you treatment early at 1-800-663-7373. Make sure you book for the afternoon of Saturday October 17th and let them know that you’re also part of the group booking for the endless tapas experience. I recommend that you stay in the spa bungalows which are just steps from the spa and are perfect for sharing with a girlfriend.

Pre-registration is mandatory and spaces are limited. Please call Sue at 778-265-6880 to register.

Pricing is $347 per person and is payable in advance

Pay only $297 when you invite a friend, colleague, client or relative to join you

A Day of Self-Care for the Busy Professional Woman

You’re a successful business woman with many competing demands on your time and finding time to focus on your wants and needs often takes a back seat to your many other responsibilities. Give yourself permission to indulge yourself in a day totally devoted to your wants and needs in a beautiful setting at 10 Mile Point with spectacular views of Mount Baker. This small group workshop involves some group activities and also provides for you to capture your own personal thoughts and ideas without sharing with the other members of the group. We’ll explore why women often feel they have to “do it all” and end up putting self-care on the back burner and understand the impact that can have on our health and our interactions with others. You’ll take time to connect with what makes you special and explore some activities you can integrate into your life to uplift you. We’ll explore how you can free up time in your schedule to integrate these activities into your day and even practice saying “No” nicely – an important component of making self-care a priority. You’ll leave feeling refreshed and with clearly defined actions you can take to bring more balance into your life.

This very special day of indulgence includes a delicious brunch with a sparkling mimosa and a mini-facial which you can enjoy on the day of the workshop or credit towards a more indulgent spa treatment at a future date. Special dietary requirements can be accommodated.

Pre-registration is mandatory and spaces are limited. Please call Sue at 778-265-6880 to register.

Pricing is $297 per person and is payable in advance.

Pay only $247 each when you Invite a friend, colleague, client or relative to join you.

All major credit cards are accepted

Pre-Retirement Lifestyle Planning for Singles

Do you sometimes feel anxious when you think about your retirement? You know you need to have a plan for where you’ll live and how you’ll spend your time because without that it’s impossible to know when you have enough money set aside so that you can stop work without worrying. Would you like to kick start your retirement planning in a fun one day workshop? This small group workshop involves some group activities and also provides for you to capture your own personal thoughts and ideas without sharing with the other members of the group. You’ll connect with your own personal vision of retirement, including where you’ll live and how you’ll spend your time. Take your lunch break to stretch your legs and assimilate our morning work. The hotel has a beautiful restaurant and there are many al fresco options at nearby Fisherman’s Wharf. The early afternoon will be devoted to group brainstorming around a number of hypothetical scenarios for achieving a variety of retirement goals. You’ll then take time to capture possible ways that you can accommodate your desires in a way that could work for you and takes account of your personal circumstances. You’ll leave the session with a better understanding of what retirement could look like for you and some tools to help you continue the process of clarifying your vision and refining your retirement plan. Once you’ve completed this work, you’ll be able to talk with a competent financial advisor who can help you formalize the financial component of your plan and help you determine when might be the best time for you to retire.

This day could be life-changing – don’t put off getting this clarity to some future date that may never come. Enjoy a sense of control and empowerment as you clarify your retirement plans.

Pre-registration is mandatory and spaces are limited. Please call Sue at 778-265-6880 to register.

Pricing is $197 per person and is payable in advance.

Pay only $157 each when you Invite a friend, colleague, client or relative to join you. All major credit cards are accepted

Pre-Retirement Lifestyle Planning for Couples

Do you suspect that you and your partner have different view of what retirement could look like? Would you like to kick start your retirement planning in a fun one day workshop? This small group workshop involves some group work and also provides for you to capture your own personal thoughts and ideas without sharing with the other members of the group. You and your partner will each connect with your own personal vision of retirement, including where you’ll live and how you’ll spend your time. There’ll be an opportunity to share your ideas with one another over the lunch break. Lunch is not included in this workshop to allow for privacy as you share your discoveries with your partner. The early afternoon will be devoted to group brainstorming around a number of hypothetical scenarios where one partner has a very different view than the other. You’ll then take time to capture possible ways that you can accommodate your and your partner’s desires in a way that could work for both of you. You’ll leave the session with a better understanding of what retirement could look like for you as a couple and some tools to help you continue the process of clarifying your vision and refining your retirement plan. Once you’ve completed this work, you’ll be able to talk with a competent financial advisor who can help you formalize the financial component of your plan and help you determine when might be the best time for you to retire.

This day could be life-changing – don’t put off getting this clarity to some future date that may never come. Enjoy a sense of control and empowerment as you and your partner clarify your retirement plans.

Pre-registration is mandatory and spaces are limited. Please call Sue at 778-265-6880 to register. Pricing is $297 per couple and is payable in advance. All major credit cards are accepted

Forget Retirement – Semi-Retire Instead

Forget Retirement – Semi-Retire InsteadDo you sometimes wonder if you’ll ever be able to save enough money to retire? We’re living longer and many company pension plans are facing extinction. Even those lucky enough to have a defined benefits pension plan may be splitting the proceeds with an ex-spouse and finding that’s not enough to live on. Some parents are reaching their 60’s and are still supporting adult children who aren’t yet fully financially independent. Sound familiar?

Here’s a radical notion – what if you chose to semi-retire doing something that you enjoy doing so much that you may never want to fully retire? There is considerable research to support the notion that staying engaged and involved in stimulating activities such as running your own small business can contribute to a longer, healthier and more satisfying life. The bonus is that the extra income may allow you to transition into your dream semi-retirement career sooner than you ever thought possible.

I transitioned into my new career as a Life Transitions Coach in my mid-fifties after 30 years in the corporate world and love it so much that I can’t imagine ever retiring. It’s the perfect career to transition me into semi-retirement. It fits perfectly into my semi-retirement vision which includes primarily working from home and travelling occasionally to deliver speaking engagements or workshops in cities I love. I’d like to tell you that I carefully thought it all through and strategically planned my transition into my new career, but that wouldn’t be true. My transition came about as a result of a company reorganization which prompted me to pause and consider whether this was the right time to begin my new career – I decided that it was.

Looking back, with some pre-planning, I might have done things a little differently. I could have taken my coach training while I was still working and begun my coaching practice part-time on evenings and weekends to build my confidence and my practice before making the transition. I might even have been able to experience the joy and satisfaction I experience from my new career sooner had I started planning earlier.

If you’re in a job that doesn’t inspire you and you’re years away from being able to retire, I encourage you to give some thought to what an ideal pre-retirement career could look like for you – one that could set you up for your ideal semi-retirement career in the future. I love helping my clients explore possibilities for their ideal next career move and I have a number of different programs to help them do that. Or you can make your own plan.

7 Steps to Your Dream Semi-Retirement Career:

  1. Get a clear vision of what an ideal semi-retirement lifestyle could look like for you
  2. Inventory your talents, strengths and assets and identify the ones that you feel most fulfilled using
  3. Explore the many possibilities for using those talents in a different career or a new business that would be of value to others and that could transition you into semi-retirement
  4. Validate that your idea is viable – is there a demand for the type of career and if it’s a business – is there a demand for this in the marketplace?
  5. Understand the costs involved and the expected revenue stream from your new pre-retirement career – be realistic and if starting a new business expect it to take a few years to become profitable.
  6. Build a plan and a timeline to transition into your pre-retirement career with dependencies identified, including any training that might be required
  7. Sit down with a qualified financial planner and take a good look at your current finances and projected retirement income and explore different scenarios to discover when would be the right time for you to begin to execute your plan to transition into your dream semi-retirement career.

I can’t begin to tell you how satisfying it is to be making a living doing something you love. I hope you are able to discover what that looks like for you and would love to hear from you if you’d like to share what that is for you or if you would like my support to help you discover and transition into your dream semi-retirement career. Do this and you can make the rest of your life the BEST of your life.  

Make the rest of your life
the BEST of your life.

Stones

©Sue Maitland Life Transitions Coach 778-265-6880

suemaitland@shaw.ca  www.suemaitland.com

Sue Maitland is a Life Transitions Coach and Speaker based in Victoria, BC Canada.

Retirement Reinvented for Women

Join, Donna McCaw, author of “It’s Your Time”, Sue Maitland, Life Transitions Coach, Bev Carter, Notary and Pam Katunar, TD Investment Advisor and the Sponsor of this event, for a day focused on understanding what an ideal retirement could look like for you. We’ll wrap up our day with a delicious wine tasting courtesy of Silverside Winery and a presentation from Cathy Scott CEO (Chief Exploration Officer) of exciting trips around the world designed just for women.

This will be an informative, interactive and fun filled day and spaces are likely to fill up quickly. If you’d like to attend, please contact Sue Maitland at 778-265-6880 or email her at Suemaitland@shaw.ca and provide your name and phone number and the name and number of any friends or relatives who may like to join you.

Make This Your Best Year Ever

2015 Your Best Year EverWant to set yourself up for an amazing year? Take a trip with me into the future and let’s look back on your achievements. Give yourself the gift of 30 minutes in a quiet place where you won’t be disturbed and let’s explore what an amazing year could look like for you.

In December I invited my clients to connect with me to reflect on their achievements over the past year. We looked back and uncovered personal and professional successes both big and small and took a moment to pause and celebrate them together. In all cases my clients were surprised and delighted with their accomplishments. You can discover how to walk yourself through this process in this article on my website:  http://suemaitland.com/category/articles/. Reading that article could be the perfect prelude to our trip into the future.

Now I want to share with you the second part of our year-end coaching session. Here are the steps I invite you to follow to create your plan for this year’s achievements:

  1. Write at the top of your notepad “My Achievements This Year”.
  2. Take a couple of nice deep cleansing breaths and get present to the moment
  3. Imagine you’ve stepped through a portal and been transported into the future – it’s now December and you’ve enjoyed an amazingly successful year
  4. As you look back over the entire year ask yourself “What are all the wonderful things that I achieved last year that I may wish to celebrate?” and from the vantage point of the end of the year, write down on your notepad each thing that comes to mind. Don’t hold back – remember it’s been an amazing year.
  5. Now take another couple of deep cleansing breaths and prepare to get really present and open to celebrating your successes this year.
  6. Read out loud each of your achievements and acknowledge and honour each one of them.
  7. Notice how you are now feeling about yourself and your past year. Enjoy that feeling of satisfaction and congratulate yourself on all of your achievements.
  8. Now step back from the future and think of the top 3 actions you could take that would help make this vision a reality and write them on your notepad. Set a date for when you will start doing each of these things.
  9. Consider one key thing that might occur that could impact your ability to achieve those goals and ask yourself “How can I overcome that challenge if it occurs?” Write your answer down.
  10. Notice how you were able to come up with an answer as to how to overcome your challenge and know that you have the answers to be able to overcome any challenges if you just take time to give it your attention and are open to all the possible solutions.

Congratulations – you just set yourself up for an amazing year.

If you would like to explore working with me to help you get clarity on the key achievements you’d like to set for yourself for the coming year and invite me to support you as you build a plan to make them happen, please call or email me for a complimentary initial consultation and you could begin to…

Make the rest of your life
the BEST of your life.

Stones

©Sue Maitland Life Transitions Coach 778-265-6880

suemaitland@shaw.ca  www.suemaitland.com

7 Simple Steps to Excavate Your Achievements from Last Year

7 Simple Steps to Excavating Your Achievements from Last YearSometimes as the year comes to a close, we get so caught up with thinking about the coming year that we forget to pause and take a moment to reflect upon our achievements over the past 12 months and the valuable lessons we may have learned from the things that didn’t quite go as expected.

I invite you to give yourself the gift of 20 minutes to reflect upon your successes large and small this year. Find a quiet comfortable spot where you won’t be disturbed and bring a pen and notepad with you.

  1. Write at the top of your notepad “My Achievements This Year”.
  2. Take a couple of nice deep cleansing breaths and get present to the moment.
  3. Ask yourself “What are some of the things that I achieved last year?” and reflect back on everything, large or small that happened that was successful or enjoyable in the past year and is something you’d like to capture and celebrate. Write down on your notepad each thing that comes to mind.
  4. Now consider something that didn’t quite turn out as planned and ask yourself “What positive lesson can I take away from this?” Write down the positive lesson you learned as a result of this experience.
  5. Now take another couple of deep cleansing breaths and prepare to get really present and open to celebrating your successes in the past year.
  6. Read out loud each of your achievements and acknowledge and honour each one of them, including any lessons learned.
  7. Notice how you are now feeling about yourself and your past year. Enjoy that feeling of satisfaction and congratulate yourself on all of your achievements.

To my clients who accepted my invitation for a year-end review and a look ahead to next year, thank you for allowing me to celebrate your successes with you. You already know the next step in this process is one that will set you up for a very successful year ahead. For those of you who haven’t experienced my year-end review coaching session, I’ll post the next step in the process on my website in January and send you the link.

For now I simply invite you to enjoy noticing what a wonderful year you just experienced.

If you would like to explore working with me to help you get clarity on the key achievements you’d like to set for yourself for the coming year and support you as you build a plan to make them happen, please call or email me for a complimentary initial consultation and you could begin to…

Make the rest of your life
the BEST of your life.

 

Stones

Retirement Reinvented – Part 6

In Part 6 of this 6 part seminar series you’ll create a plan to achieve your retirement vision.

You’ll build on the research from part 5 and get clarity on whether full-retirement or semi-retirement is right for you.

You’ll get sense of when might be the right time to retire or semi-retire.

You’ll have a chance to “step into” experiencing your vision of retirement and receive tools and a strategy to help you refine your plan and begin to take action to make it a reality.

You’ll also book your follow up session with your coach for early in 2015.

The cost of this event is included in the overall cost of this seminar series.

Call Sue at 778-265-6880 to register or for more information. Visa and MasterCard accepted.

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