Are You Stuck in a Rut?
Start doing something about it
Do you sometimes feel that youâ€™re stuck in a rut?
Your life is routine and thereâ€™s really not a lot to look forward to?
Youâ€™re not alone â€“ many people go through life this way, but you can chose to do something about itâ€¦
How do you know youâ€™re in a rut?
- You wake up in the morning and thereâ€™s no sense of excitement or anticipation about your day
- You dread Monday morning â€“ you live for the weekend and vacations
- Youâ€™re marking time until you retire when you can really start to enjoy life
- Your life consists of the same old routine â€“ youâ€™re not learning or experiencing anything new
- You dream of things youâ€™d love to do but never get around to taking steps to actually make them happen.
Ask yourself where you fall on a scale of 1 to 10 where 1 is â€śI can barely drag myself out of bed in the morning and face the dayâ€ť and 10 is â€śI love my life and canâ€™t wait to experience all the wonderful people Iâ€™ll be connecting with and things I have planned for todayâ€ť
If you are a 5 or below, you may be in a rutâ€¦..
What can you do about it?
- Take some quiet time to understand whatâ€™s really important to you (your core values)
- Take stock of your special talents and strengths (read StrengthsFinder 2.0 and take the online test to uncover your top 5 strengths)
- Think of the times in your life when you felt truly alive and energized â€“ what were you doing? How can you find a way to get more of this energy into your life?
- Ask yourself what might be YOUR special purpose or calling in life
- Put a plan together to bring more positive energy into your life â€“ take small steps at first and the momentum will begin to build until you have more and more of what you want in your life
- Consider working with a life coach to get clear on what you want and the support to help you get it
Imagine you are a fly on the wall at your 80th Birthday Party (if youâ€™re 80 or older, imagine a birthday 10 years in the future). As birthday gift, someone has commissioned a book to be written about you and the author is interviewing your friends and family about their experience of having you in their lives.
Q1Â Â What do you want them to be saying about you?
Q2Â Â What would they be saying if they were interviewed today?
Compare the two and use this to determine if itâ€™s time to make some changes in your life
What if youâ€™re in a rut with your job?
- Understand what you like to do and explore ways to bring this into your current job
- Explore other possibilities with your current employer â€“ talk to people in roles you think you might enjoy to really understand whatâ€™s involved and if itâ€™s something youâ€™d enjoy doing
- Donâ€™t quit your job without a plan
- If youâ€™re laid off, donâ€™t spend months doing nothing â€“ take a few weeks for yourself and then take the time to explore what you really want from your next job and understand what you have to offer an employer and then NETWORK â€“ the reality is that most jobs are found through word of mouth and never actually get posted.
- Never send a resume out without customizing it for the company youâ€™re applying to so that they can easily see how your skills match their needs. Always attach a custom cover letter addressed to the person who will make the hiring decision (call and ask the receptionist who that is) and always follow up with a phone call to show your interest.
- Find your passion and then find a way to bring it into your work and it wonâ€™t even feel like work
Whether you work with a life transitions coach or find the motivation to take these actions yourself, always remember, itâ€™s never too early or too late to begin to
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